Important Questions to Ask as Your Parents Prepare for Senior Assisted Living: Part 1
June 2nd, 2015 by John Wilson
Ask these important questions before putting a parent in senior assisted living.
It’s never easy to approach your parents with questions about their finances, insurance or legal papers. While your questions are well-meaning, they can sometimes seem intrusive or down right nosy to your elderly mother or father. As they grow older and get closer to the time when they may require living assistance, it becomes increasingly essential to get those important answers. In this two-part series, we’ll address how to talk to your aging parents about the pressing issues you should cover, as well as what questions to ask.
Ways to Introduce the Discussion with Your Aging Parents
- Choose a family spokesperson. When choosing who should talk to Mom or Dad, elect a family member they best relate to. Other family members may take part, but ensure the one with the most calming influence leads the discussion. Make it a series of conversations about estate planning so your parents aren’t overwhelmed at once.
- Ask for advice. By asking advice about your own estate planning, it opens the door for your parents to offer how they have handled their own. You may even ask them about assisted living costs in preparation of your own aging. Assure them you know they are still in control of their own finances, but it would help you to know where all the important documents are kept. You may even ask them what they think you should know about in case of an emergency.
- Have You Made a Will and Where Is It Located? If your parents have a will, you’ll need to know where it is, when it was written, who the executor will be and who your parent’s lawyer is. If their will is older than five years, ask them if the beneficiaries listed are current and recommend they review the will in case it needs to be updated.
- Do You Have a Living Trust? Sometimes seniors who do not have a will may have a living trust. Using this type of legal instrument, someone is identified to take control of the senior’s assets in case they become incapacitated or in the event of death.
- Do You Have a Living Will or Advance Health Care Directive? These documents will specify your end-of-life requests, such as whether you want to be resuscitated if you are terminally ill and your heart stops beating, as well as covering feeding tubes and ventilators. When parents require living assistance, this type document is often something to be considered.
Stay tuned for our next installment on this subject covering more legal, insurance and other essential questions you should ask your aging parents. In the meantime, if you are looking for assisted living in Oklahoma City, contact us. At the Village at Oakwood, we offer a caring environment for your senior loved ones.
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